“It’s just hard”
I don’t know what it is – but that seems to be the theme of this summer that I keep hearing. I have heard it from family, from friends, from clients, I hear it from the lady at the grocery store – everything is just hard.
Life with small kids is hard.
Life with big kids is hard.
Work is hard.
Work-life balance is hard.
Money is hard.
Adulting is hard.
Having a child with special needs is hard.
Having your own business is hard.
_________ is hard.
Oh and I can understand. I have uttered those words, probably more than I would like to admit now.
So let’s talk about hard…
What is hard?
Who determines what “hard” is?
Oh… that’s a powerful question. Sit with that one for a moment.
What if WE are the ones who are determining what hard is?
If we determine what hard is, then do we get to determine what easy is?
What if something is only hard because it is new?
When my preschoolers complain that making their bed or learning to tie their shoes is hard, I gently remind them it is only hard because they haven’t done it enough.
What if something is only hard because we just don’t have the skills or tools to navigate it yet?
Ever try to chop down a tree with a baseball bat? It doesn’t work. We laugh at that analogy, but every day in life people are doing just that. You need the right skills and tools to be successful – do you have them? If you don’t – are you learning how to gain them?
What if something is only hard because we keep saying it is?
“Your words are so powerful that they will kill or give life, and the talkative person will reap the consequences”
Proverbs 18:21
What you say becomes your reality. What are you speaking into your life?
Friend – your life is not meant to be hard. Jesus said “I have come so that they may have life, and have it to the FULL”.
Oh, there will be bumps in the road, 100%, but it doesn’t change that we were designed to have an abundant life.